Mum, Dad, I’m Pregnant
- Camila Dias
Camila talks us through the trials and tribulations of telling her parents she was pregnant five years ago. How did some other young people break the news to their families?
I can’t believe it’s coming up to a whole five years since I found out I was pregnant (when I was sixteen.) I went from a school-girl worrying about exams to having something that would change my life forever. It’s funny, because when I think back, as soon as I found out I was having a child it was my parents who came to mind – and by funny, I mean absolutely catastrophic.
Forgetting the fact that I had just found out I was pregnant, my initial thoughts were, “How on earth am I going to tell my parents!?” I could almost taste the airplane food just thinking about it. Knowing my mum, I’d probably get shipped off to South America back to Peru. So instead, I thought I’d keep it to myself…maybe it was a mistake? I planned to go to the GP thinking that surely, they would confirm that I wasn’t pregnant.
They confirmed alright. Via letter to my home address; that not only was I in fact pregnant, but that my first scan date had also been booked. Long story short, life got long for me that day.
I can only imagine what it must feel like for your teen child to approach you and declare that they are about to become a parent. It must be shocking to say the least, but not every parent reacts in the same way. I’m almost certain every parent drops the McDonalds line though like my dad did when he went on and on about how I would end up working in McDonalds all my life. (When did McDonalds even get such a bad reputation anyway, I heard they pay quite well, lol.) He wasn’t impressed when I said that either.
According to figures released by the Office for National Statistics, I was one of 38,259 teenage girls to find out I was pregnant in 2009. Taking the teen fathers parents into consideration, around 100 thousand parents across the UK were sat down to be told their teen was about to have a baby. What a stat.
20-year-old Diana from West London shared her story with me about how her family reacted when she became pregnant at 17. She had been feeling so unwell that her boyfriend thought it would be best to take a pregnancy test, and to their shock it showed up positive. Like me, they decided to keep it a secret (because apparently pregnancy is an easy secret to keep). Only, Diana got so unwell she ended up in hospital on a drip and had no choice but to call her mum to pick her up. She says, “I called her and said, ‘Mum, I need you to come to the hospital to sign some papers because they won’t let me leave until you come’”. Her mum was unsurprisingly worried and asked what had happened. “I was trying to prolong it so I didn’t have to tell her but she continued to ask questions until I had no choice and blurt out, ‘You’re going to be a grandma’”. Her mum thought it was a joke until she realised Diana was being serious. And although her mum gave her an earful, when her dad found out, he was happy and wanted to go and buy baby clothes straight away!
This is a little different from Jayson’s story, the 21-year-old from South London was 19 when he found out his girlfriend was pregnant. “My dad was most upset with me at first as we were close”, he tells me. “But after my dad saw that I had got a job and got my driving license he began to see I would be a responsible dad”.
They finished telling me their stories with a similar ending, both their parents now adore their grandchildren. It’s important to remember that our parents know the struggles of raising a child, and so it’s only fair that they express their worries. What’s important is that you rise above and start planning what steps you will take to make sure your life doesn’t fall apart. Now five years down the line, my parents too love my son more than anything in the world and I’m aiming to graduate from university! Who knew?